1997....the healing process for Sheldon began in this
year. It began in early January when he came forward to the press with
his story of survival. He and Jana both started what was then known
as the Sheldon Kennedy Foundation. Sheldon planned to build a ranch
in Canada to assist kids with the trauma of sexual abuse.
The biggest guns in the NHL, such
as the Philadelphia Flyers' Eric Lindros expressed their gratitude towards
the courageous young man they shared the ice with. Others, such as then-Calgary
Flame Theoren Fleury (now with the New York Rangers) didn't share that
same gratitude, apparently.
In the summer of 1997, joy from
finally being able to move on became short-lived when the ATV he was
riding overturned and broke his leg in nine places. Two days later,
he was cut from the Bruins' roster. It was now time for Sheldon to heal
and rethink his course of action. It made me realize that everything
happens for a reason, and just because he was out of hockey indefinately
didn't mean he'd disappear. He now had a voice that couldn't be silenced.
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Are Your Kids Safe?
Canada's Hockey Teams Rocked By Coach-Sex Scandal
Kennedy Tries to Rebuild
Kennedy Fund Growing
Alleged Pedophile Ring Operated at Maple Leaf Gardens
No Longer a Silent Struggle
Kennedy Turns Shame into Triumph
Bruins' Kennedy a Beacon for Victims of Sexual Abuse
Hockey's Dirty Secret
Sheldon Says "Save it, Theo"
The Shame and Pain of Graham James
Sheldon Kennedy Named Newsmaker of 1997
Guy Who Really Makes You Wonder: Theo Fleury
Kennedy Haunted By Abuse
Kennedy Story Is Far From Finished
Masterton Trophy Nominees are Announced
Are your kids safe?
By Barry Came
Maclean's; Toronto
Feb 10, 1997
From hockey to schools to scouting, the hunt is on for sexual predators
She bears the burden of it still, more than a year after finally summoning
the courage to reveal her terrible secret So call her Carol. It is not
her real name but it does offer whatever small comfort anonymity can
provide. She was only 13 years old when it started; a five-foot, 95-pound
waif with enough talent as a gymnast to compete at the provincial level
in her native British Columbia. "It would not happen in the gym," she
recalls. "He would offer me a ride home and then stop at his house and
it would happen there." "He" was Wayne Andrews, then 29, a muscular,
aggressive former soldier who also happened to be one of Carol's gymnastic
club coaches.
And "it" usually consisted of kissing and heavy-handed groping on Andrews's
part "I knew it was wrong," says Carol now, "but I thought it was my
fault because I never actually said the word 'No' to him."
Andrews regularly molested Carol for three months. The incidents did
not cease, in fact, until he left the club for reasons unrelated to
his behavior. But even that did not bring an end to Carol's torment.
For two long years, she struggled to come to terms with often overwhelming
feelings of shame, guilt and embarrassment. "I wouldn't go to meets
where he lived," she remembers. "I'd freak out. I'd end up crying."
The pressure continued to build until, finally, it all came apart shortly
before Christmas in 1994. "He called my house to say Merry Christmas
to me," recounts Carol, who was by then a 1-year-old high-school student
in British Columbia's Lower Mainland. "I'd been carrying it around for
two years and I couldn't deal with it any more. I had to tell someone.
So I told a few friends at the gym and they told me to tell my mother."
Carol's mother, of course, was stunned. "It simply never occurred to
me," says the woman who, like her daughter, finds it particularly difficult
to deal with the fact that Andrews was no stranger to the family. "That's
what is really horrifying," she confesses with a mixture of dread and
amazement. '"he fellow would come to our house for dinner. In hindsight,
you feel like an idiot." Carol's mother launched a complaint that eventually
led to a court case. Last October, Andrews, after pleading guilty to
sexual interference, was sentenced to a year in prison. For Carol, it
amounted to a vindication of sorts, a chance to finally shed dark memories
and begin to heal. But for Carol's mother, the unhappy affair left in
its wake a disquieting concern. "My kid had all the streetproofing things
they did at school, all the things you try to explain to kids," she
remarks, before asking: "I wonder why it didn't work."
Plenty of other parents across Canada are experiencing similar anxieties,
particularly if their children take part in programs where they come
in close contact with adult mentors. Graham James is largely responsible
for that. Ever since the Western Hockey League coach was sent to prison
last month for sexually assaulting two of his players, attention has
focused on the yawning potential for sexual abuse in sports. Not surprisingly,
the spotlight has fallen on hockey, with new scandals surfacing almost
daily as those in charge of the game scramble to contain the damage.
But, as Carol's case so graphically illustrates, the problem is not
confined to hockey. Nor is it just within organized sport. What may
be emerging, in fact, are the symptoms of an old malaise that stretches
far more widely, and reaches far more deeply, than even the most worried
parent dares contemplate.
That, at least, is the view of many experts in the field. Paddy Bowen,
executive director of Volunteer Canada, an Ottawa-based clearing house
for communitybased organizations, goes so far as to "guarantee" that
child sexual abuse "is happening this minute in almost every community
working with children you can imagine. It is happening with Boy Scouts,
it is happening in Big Brothers and hockey and soccer and swimming.
It is happening right now. It is not every second person but it is also
not one in a million. We know that."
If the accounts surfacing in public are any indication, Bowen may not
be exaggerating. Wayne Andrews was only one of three British Columbia-based
gymnastics coaches convicted on sexual offences during a three-month
period late last year. Right now, three minor hockey officials-in Winnipeg,
Calgary and Grand Forks, B.C.-are either under investigation or facing
charges on sex counts. Nuns in Newfoundland and a former scoutmaster
in Ontario face lawsuits arising from physical, emotional and sexual
abuse of youngsters in their care. At least five adults have been arrested
across the land since early December for possessing computer-generated
child pornography, including a respected physicist in Ottawa and the
bespectacled cantor of a Halifax synagogue.
The list goes on. In Ottawa, a former army cadet volunteer was to appear
in court this week on charges of gross indecency involving twin brothers
for whom he became legal guardian in the late 1970s. In Montreal, a
47-year-old day care worker with a previous conviction for sexual assault
on children was found guilty of molesting two toddlers and ordered held
in custody for sentencing. In Nova Scotia, the government had to temporarily
suspend a program under which it had budgeted $33 million last May to
compensate childhood victims of abuse at three provincial youth institutions.
The reason: quickly swamped with 1,250 separate claims, it was "collapsing
under its own weight," according to Justice Minister Jay Abass.
None of these incidents had anything to do with the furor that erupted
when Sheldon Kennedy of the NHL's Boston Bruins unveiled his harrowing
tale of the sexual abuse he suffered while playing junior hockey for
Graham James in Swift Current, Sask. But the publicity the scandal attracted
has clearly had an effect, directing the public's eye into some of society's
darker and dirtier corners. Kennedy's courage in stepping forward has
prompted others to do the same. In one of the more dramatic episodes,
Larry Hendrick, a 41-year-old Edmonton teacher, painted in detail the
sexual advances-and attempted sexual blackmail-he was forced to endure
while a 16-year-old player toiling for the late Brian Shaw, one of Western
Canada's junior hockey legends. What is more, he told reporters that
at least 30 of Shaw's former players had telephoned him with reports
of similar experiences. "There were three players in particular who
broke down on the phone," said Hendrick. "It was the first time these
guys had told anybody about what happened to them."
Beyond hockey, the James affair continues to reverberate. On Jan. 13
in Halifax, for example, Provincial Court Judge Hughes Randall invoked
that case as he sentenced Frank C. Hurshman, 41, of Queensland, N.S.,
to 15 months in jail after Hurshman pleaded guilty to indecency in a
case involving a mentally handicapped boy who was occasionally in his
care. "No doubt you've probably taken into account the way the press,
radio and TV dealt with the story [about James] and the way the situation
is viewed by the public," said Randall, in passing sentence. "The child
was in your care, under your wing. And whether you're supposed to be
building camps with him in the woods or coaching them as a hockey player,
it's considered to be most serious and reprehensible."
Reprehensible, certainly, but neither rare nor particularly new. Pedophiles
have been around almost as long as there have been children, and there
is no shortage of them in Canada. In Vancouver, the police department
recently disclosed that it has been searching for the past five years
for the person who has been leaving obscene letters along a stretch
of Cambie Street, not far from the city's downtown. Authorities have
recovered more than 50 letterssome crudely illustrated, a few handwritten,
most of them typedrecounting in salacious detail repeated incidents
of abuse of young children. "There is such a wealth of information that
all the experts feel very strongly that he has committed many molestations,"
says Const Anne Drennan. "We believe the victims are children of family,
friends, neighbors, kids that he has been babysitting. It's not a random
thing."
Last November, parents in and around Halifax breathed a collective sigh
of relief when Ernest Warner went to a federal penitentiary for two
years after being convicted of stalking students at 13 area high schools.
In court, the Crown described the 54-year-old Sackville, N. B. resident,
incredibly a foster parent of two toddlers at the time of his arrest
last June, as a self-confessed "active pedophile, strongly attracted
to prepubescent children, males and females." Local police had been
investigating Warner for five months, following the attempted abduction
of a Sackville schoolgirl. Police officers told the court about Warner's
driving habits, which involved racing "like a maniac" from school to
school, then slowing down whenever he spotted students. When they arrested
Warner, he had a stack of chocolate candy on the front seat of his car.
Despite the pernicious nature of the problem, there is a dearth of accurate
data on the damage that pedophiles wreak. The Canadian Institute of
Child Health, a nonprofit organization, claims that, before the age
of 18, one in four girls and one in eight boys are tricked, bribed or
forced into sexual activity by a teenager or adult. According to a B.
C. survey in 1992, more than 20 per cent of Grade 9 girls reported that
they had been sexually abused.
But those numbers offer only a glimpse of the problem. There are, in
fact, no reliable national statistics, primarily because of the difficulty
in gathering data about what has been, and remains, a hidden crime.
Because child welfare is a provincial responsibility, each province
compiles its own figures in line with its own definitions. "This has
been a really big problem for us," complains Valerie Fronczek, executive
director of the Society for Children and Youth of British Columbia,
an advocacy group financed largely by the United Way and private funds.
"It makes it difficult to prove if things are getting any better or
any worse."
The most extensive national study on the prevalence of sexual offences
against the young was the Badgley Report, published in 1984 by the Committee
on Sexual Offenses Against Children and Youths under the chairmanship
of Robin Badgley. It found that 53 per cent of females and 31 per cent
of males have been victims of unwanted sexual acts, with roughly 80
per cent of those incidents involving victims under the age of 18. A
related population survey concluded that threequarters of the victims
were girls.
Gordon Phaneuf, chief of the Child Maltreatment Surveillance Division
at Health Canada in Ottawa, acknowledges that the Badgley statistics
are now "clearly dated." All the same, he argues that they "still give
you a sense of how broad the problem is." More positively, experts agree
that old taboos surrounding the subject of child abuse are beginning
to disappear. "The climate has definitely changed," says Phaneuf. "Many
more children and adults are willing to disclose their abuse, ready
to speak out about the experiences they have suffered."
Fronczek, of the B.C. Society for Children and Youth, illustrates the
same point by noting that people were unwilling to talk about child
sexual abuse when her organization conducted its first research into
the subject in 1979. "If they did talk, it would be to say that they
were sure that, yes, it did happen, but probably not that much, not
that often," she says. "They would say it was an aberration and we don't
really want to give it much attention. But as the years unfolded, it
has got a lot of attention. It is an interesting statement on us all.
There are things we just don't want to face. But over the years we have
had to."
The James case certainly helped accelerate the process. Ever since the
hockey scandal burst into public view, organizations dealing with youth
across the country have been bombarded with inquiries. And the people
in charge of organized hockey, in particular, have scrambled to introduce
reforms. The Canadian Hockey League, the umbrella organization overseeing
the level of junior hockey that James coached, hired Toronto sports
lawyer Gordon Kirke to conduct a oneman inquiry into the game's ills.
Individual teams, meanwhile, have been adopting their own measures.
Officals at the Sarnia Sting of the Ontario Hockey League established
a 24-hour sexual abuse hotline for its players. Farther north, the owners
of the Owen Sound Platers appointed a respected local policeman to act
as a "surrogate uncle" for any player in need of advice. Typical of
what has been happening elsewhere in the country is the situation at
Sask Sport, a federation of the province's 72 sports governing bodies.
"In the past few weeks the phones have been ringing off the hook big
time," says Noreen Murphy, the federation's sports development co-ordinator.
"It's mostly parents, but I've had young kids call me too. `What can
we do? Where can we go? Who can we trust?' These are the kinds of questions
that are coming out."
They are good questions, even if there are few easy answers to them.
Jan Brown, the former Reform MP from Calgary who is seeking the nod
to join the Conservative party, is promoting one approach. In a private
member's bill she has placed before Parliament, Brown is attempting
to establish a national registry of pedophiles, making public the names
and whereabouts of anyone convicted of two sexual offences involving
children. Brown also supports the use of so-called chemical castrationlowering
the testosterone level, and thereby the sex drive, of offenders with
regular drug dosages.
The governments of Quebec, Ontario and British Columbia have established
various forms of screening to weed out potential molesters from any
job involving children. And the federal government is moving along the
same path. In 1994, Ottawa launched a national education campaign on
screening and asked Volunteer Canada to head it. In the past two years,
the organization has developed a screening handbook-a kind of how-to
manual-and produced a video narrated by actor Al Waxman. But even the
most stringent screening will not eliminate all cases of child sexual
abuse. Volunteer Canada's executive director Bowen is among the first
to admit that much, acknowledging: "There are no guarantees."
Perhaps the victims are in the best position to offer guidance. Carol
certainly falls into that category, as, to a lesser extent, does her
mother. "One of the mistakes I made was assuming that if something was
wrong, my child would tell me," says the young B.C. gymnast's parent.
As for Carol herself, now a 17-year-old Grade 12 student and still heavily
involved in gymnastics, her counsel is more succinct. For youngsters,
she advises doing what she could not do-talk. "If anything happens that
you don't like, get it out in the open right away," she says. And for
parents: "Listen. No matter how farfetched it seems, check it out."
It is probably good advice. After all, Carol does speak from painful
experience.
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Canada's Hockey Teams Rocked by
Coach-Sex Scandals
Badpuppy Gay Today
Monday, 10 February, 1997
--by Patricia Conklin
"Hockey is Canada's religion, and, in fact, it is Canada itself," according
to Canadians dismayed by a series of reports that many of their favorite
sport's foremost coaches have been sexually abusing their teen-aged
proteges with regularity. "This has really touched on hallowed ground,"
says John Lovell, head coach of the Owen Sound Platers.
The coach-hockey-sex scandal blew sky-high with the January sentencing
of Graham James, one of the most successful coaches in Western Canada's
junior leagues. James was sentenced to three and a half years for abusing
two of his teen players "hundreds of times." One of the youths, handsome
Sheldon Kennedy, now a forward with the Boston Bruins, said that James
had frequently taken advantage of him.
"When things like that happen, you hide your feelings and you never
talk," said Kennedy to Canadian newspapers. The Globe and Mail, a leading
Canadian journal, called hockey "a diseased game." Graham James was
characterized by TV's host of "Hockey Night in Canada," as "a creep."
The host, Don Cherry, also used other words to denounce James but these
words, according to media reports, were not suitable for broadcast.
"This is one of the worst things I have ever heard in my life," said
Cherry, asking to be understood for his misuse of language.
Unrestrained competition for high hockey status rules in Canada. The
nation has three times as many hockey arenas as hospitals. With a population
of only 30 million, nearly four and a half million are engaged in the
sport as coaches, players, volunteers and administrators. There are
a half-million boys, aged 4 to 20, active in youth leagues. Sheldon
Kennedy said of his coach that most of the players seemed "willing"
to do almost anything to guarantee professional success.
It is estimated that sixty-five percent of players now in the N.H.L.
come through the junior leagues where the scandals have erupted. Kurt
Walsh, 19, captain of the Owen Sound Platers, believes that such abuse
is "a part of hockey, a bad part that's rarely seen." Walsh admits that
"it's a tough situation."
Another prominent coach, Brian Shaw, who passed away in 1993, now stands
accused of enticing and threatening young players into sexual relations
for 30 years. Shaw was also general manager and later chairman of the
Western Hockey League Board of Governors. Two other coaches, who both
plead guilty in Quebec, are now under public scrutiny for assaults on
hockey-playing minors. One was sentenced to five months in prison.
There's no solution in the works, according to those who'd restore hockey's
stellar reputation. No one can estimate how long it will take Canada
to get over the coach-sex scandals. Christopher Yong, a Platers executive
says that "it may be a scab that's going to be there forever and ever,
but hockey will survive." Yong reflected that "everybody in the world"
associates Canada with hockey.
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Kennedy Tries To Rebuild
2/13/97
By The Associated Press
CALGARY, Alberta -- Bruins forward Sheldon Kennedy says he's happy to
once again find himself fretting over goals, assists and his plus-minus
rating.
After months of reliving years of sexual abuse by his Western Hockey
League coach Graham James -- sentenced to 31/2 years in prison last
month for sexually assaulting Kennedy and another player -- Kennedy
has begun rebuilding his life and career.
Kennedy, 27, has appeared in 28 games for the Bruins this season, scoring
four goals and adding eight assists before Tuesday's game against his
former team, the Calgary Flames.
The Calgary crowd gave Kennedy a short ovation when his name was announced
as part of the Bruins' starting lineup. His first shift back in Calgary
came to a quick end after his line was pulled for allowing German Titov's
goal just 21 seconds into the game.
Titov's goal -- Calgary's fastest of the season -- set the pace as the
Flames went on to a 5-1 victory.
Dave Gagner, Steve Chiasson, Jonas Hoglund and Ron Stern also scored
for the Flames and Trevor Kidd made 31 saves. Bruins defenseman Barry
Richter spoiled Kidd's shutout try with just over a minute remaining.
"I'm just glad this game is over," Kennedy said. "This game was a lot
tougher than I thought it was going to be. It was hard to concentrate
on playing tonight. Now I'm just looking to concentrate on hockey."
Kennedy signed with the Bruins last summer as a free agent after two
seasons with the Flames, where he first told some teammates of abuse
by James.
"I had a hard time last year with hockey in general," Kennedy said before
the game. "But I like hockey again. I didn't like it for a long time,
I'm starting to enjoy playing again."
He was last in Calgary in early January for the trial and sentencing
of James.
At that time he went public with his story, shaking junior hockey to
its core with revelations of abuse stretching back into the mid 1980s
when he was a promising prospect with the Broncos.
Kennedy said he came very close to quitting hockey and reportedly contemplated
suicide while with the Flames.
Former Calgary teammate Ron Stern recalled talking with Kennedy when
he was considering leaving the game.
"I told him that if you've got a skill and it can make a good living
for you and your family, you shouldn't throw it away," said Stern. "If
you quit hockey and let it get the best of you, it has ruined your life."
Kennedy has instead turned a dreadful situation into one that is helping
many others. He has been called a hero for raising awareness that abuse
exists in sport by revealing James assaulted him about 300 times.
Kennedy said he has been overwhelmed by the number of letters he has
received from other victims of abuse, most of them from people not associated
with hockey or any other sport.
On Monday, Kennedy announced he has accepted a land donation near Radium,
B.C., from friend and Vancouver businessman Steven Funk. The land is
in the mountainous Kootenay region southwest of Calgary and he plans
to establish a ranch refuge there for abused children.
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Kennedy Fund Growing
2/19/97
DENVER - The Colorado Avalanche have donated $16,500 to Sheldon Kennedy's
new foundation to help abused kids.
The Avalanche Community Fund donated $2,500, while the other $14,000
was raised in the Avalanche dressing room.
Kennedy, a winger with the Boston Bruins, went public earlier this year
with his story of being sexaully abused by his junior hockey coach,
Graham James. James has been sentenced to 31/2 years in prison.
(c) 1997 Associated Press
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Alleged Pedophile Ring Operated at Maple Leaf Gardens
(c) 1997 Associated Press
TORONTO (Feb 19, 1997 - 15:42 EST) -- In another sex-abuse scandal to
jolt Canadian hockey, an alleged pedophile ring of Maple Leaf Gardens
employees lured dozens of boys into sex with offers of tickets, hockey
sticks and autographs.
One alleged victim says he was part of the sex ring from 1975 to 1982
in which group sex took place in the back rooms of the building -- one
of hockey's most renowned arenas -- sometimes during Toronto Maple Leafs
games.
A former maintenance worker in the building, Gordon Stuckless, 47, appeared
in court Wednesday on charges of indecent assault and gross indecency.
He worked at the arena until the early 1990s as a backstage helper at
concerts and hockey games.
At least two other employees at the arena, one of them deceased, allegedly
were involved in the sex ring.
"We have reason to believe there are many, many victims, but only one
is capable of going to court at this time," said Toronto police detective
Dave Tredrea.
That complainant is Martin Kruze, 34, who says the abuse started when
he was 13 in 1975 and continued until 1982. Kruze said he has attempted
suicide several times and undergone 10 years of counseling.
This is the second major sex-abuse case this year that has tarnished
the image of Canada's beloved national sport.
In January, a highly respected junior league coach, Graham James, was
sentenced to 3 1/2 years in prison for repeated sexual abuse of two
of his players over a period of years. One of his victims was Sheldon
Kennedy, now a forward with the Boston Bruins, who went public with
his story of being abused more than 300 times by James.
Similar cases involving at least three other minor league coaches have
come under police investigation, and junior hockey administrators have
been implementing new procedures for screening coaches.
Kruze first made his allegations in 1993 when he sued Maple Leaf Gardens.
He settled out of court for about $45,000, with the stipulation he not
go public with his allegations, but decided this month to come forward
anyway.
Cliff Fletcher, president of the Gardens management company and general
manager of the Maple Leafs, said police weren't notified in 1993 because
an investigation by a private detective was inconclusive.
"It couldn't substantiate the allegations," Fletcher told the Toronto
Star. "We thought at worst it was an isolated incident, if indeed it
was a true incident."
Kruze said his submission to repeated sex with a now-deceased equipment
manager at the Gardens was rewarded with free entry into the area for
him and his friends for hockey games and rock concerts. He said ushers
often allowed him into the press box, and he sometimes dined at the
Gardens' exclusive Hot Stove Lounge.
The Toronto Star quoted another alleged victim, who requested anonymity,
as saying he was lured into sex because a staff member allowed him to
watch Leafs practices and gave him used hockey sticks.
The Maple Leafs, who are tied for last in the NHL, intend to build a
new arena soon but no site has been selected.
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No Longer A Silent Struggle
Dateline: 02/22/97
Until the past few decades, survivors of abuse and incest had little
choice but to suffer in silence. Abuse in the home was the silent epidemic
that was often considered to be a 'family matter'. It was rare that
a survivor, particularly a survivor in the public eye, would disclose
what happened behind closed doors. Today, survivors in the public eye
or who were abused by people in the public eye are coming forward to
show other survivors that they are not alone.
Last month, Sheldon Kennedy, a Boston Bruins hockey player, publicly
disclosed he had been sexually abused as a teen by his junior league
coach, Graham James, who was sentenced to three years in prison. Although
Canadian law protects the identity of the victim in these types of cases,
Kennedy said he cam forward so that kids would know that it is alright
to come forward. He has shown real strength in coming forward as a professional
athlete in the macho world of hockey and overcoming the significant
barriers to disclosure faced by male survivors of sexual abuse. His
heroism has been met with wide-spread support including the support
of his team. His disclosure has led to investigation of similar cases
of abuse by coaches. Also, in the aftermath of Graham James' conviction
and the publicity following Mr. Kennedy's disclosure, the Canadian Hockey
League which oversees Canada's three regional major junior hockey leagues
drafted new guidelines for the protection of youthful players.
Sheldon Kennedy is not the only person whose status as a public figure
and courage in coming forward have brought attention to issues of abuse
and incest and helped other survivors seek the help they needed to recover:
In 1989, Marilyn Van Derbur Atler, a former Miss America, came forward
with her story of incest. Her disclosure raised public awareness about
incest and she has become an advocate for sexually violated children.
She is the host of the video Once Can Hurt a Lifetime, in which children
and adults tell their stories of sexual abuse and how it has affected
their lives.
Oprah Winfrey also publicly disclosed her story of sexual abuse as a
child. At one time children who were sexually abused were told that
their lives were ruined forever. Now, Oprah Winfrey provides a dramatic
example that a survivor can triumph over trauma and have a full life.
Oprah does not shy away from tackling the issue of child abuse. For
example, she publicly takes on pedophiles on her talk-show and is the
host of the award-winning "Scared Silent: Exposing and Ending Child
Abuse", a myth-shattering program about child abuse.
Perhaps one of the first public figures to come forward and talk about
her personal story of child abuse is Christina Crawford, whose book,
"Mommie Dearest", became a best seller. Although Ms. Crawford was accused
of exploiting her mother's fame, she has turned her private pain into
public action as a pioneer in making child abuse an issue of national
concern and the author of "No Safe Place - The Legacy of Family Violence".
For survivors of abuse and incest, the public attention being focused
on these issues have led to many positive changes. It has become easier
for survivors to obtain protective orders to keep abusers away from
them. Today, advocacy programs, shelters, counseling programs, and support
groups are available to survivors in most areas. Online, there are hundreds
of related sites and news groups. Additionally, books and newsletters
bring support to survivors even in the most remote areas. For survivors
of abuse and incest, there has never been a better time to find the
resources needed to recover. More and more survivors are no longer struggling
in silence.
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Kennedy Turns Shame Into Triumph
3/19/97
Daniel Mears / The Detroit News
Sheldon Kennedy's revelation of his sexual abuse as a junior has won
him praise and respect throughout the NHL.
Sheldon Kennedy knew, beyond a doubt, that someday he would have to
let the demons out. Not for anybody else's sake, you understand. For
himself, his family and his precious 14-month-old daughter, Ryan.
That his revelations have mobilized a nation against a cause is gratifying,
and a source of considerable pride. But for a young man finally able
to prioritize his life after more than a decade of inner turmoil, there
is no shame in putting himself first.
"When my daughter was born, I took a look at her, and I knew," Kennedy
said. "The position I'm in, being in the National Hockey League, I knew
I needed to deal with it. I had to do something about it."
What Kennedy, a former Red Wing now playing with the Boston Bruins,
did was to reveal that he was sexually abused by his junior coach, Graham
James. Kennedy and a second unnamed victim also now playing in the NHL
were offered a chance by the presiding judge to remain anonymous. Kennedy
knew he couldn't keep silent. The cleansing process demanded he speak
out, and he has done so with dignity.
"I'm a long ways from where I want to be, but at least I can see the
light at the end of the tunnel," he said as he prepared for tonight's
game against Detroit at Joe Louis Arena.
"I still feel weird, but at least I know why I feel weird."
James was sentenced to 31/2 years in jail after pleading guilty to two
counts of sexual abuse in a case that rocked Canada last year and continues
to have repercussions. A court order prohibited publication of the names
of the two victims, but Kennedy went public anyway.
James' conviction has been front-page news across Canada.
There has been widespread criticism of the liberal sentence handed down
against James, but Kennedy is convinced others will step forward and
more charges will be brought forth, keeping James imprisoned for much
longer.
"A year down the road there will be a lot more people dealing with this,"
he said. "There are two, three dozen more players involved. This started
way before me."
Earlier this year, the Toronto Globe and Mail published its list of
"25 (sports) people who made a difference" in the way Canadians live.
It included many of the most powerful and influential people in the
country, including Paul Beeston, owner of the Toronto Blue Jays; NHL
commissioner Gary Bettman; NFL boss Paul Tagliabue, and even Don Cherry.
But No. 1 on the list was Kennedy, whose story of abuse was a compelling
and powerful commentary and, according to the newspaper, "influenced
the way we view development in our national game -- and how vigilant
parents must be."
Kennedy's shame has become his triumph. The hockey community and the
media have greeted Kennedy not with disparaging words and awkward glances
but with compassion.
"I knew I would get support," said Kennedy, who has eight goals and
10 assists in 45 games. "I've been treated with such respect, by everybody,
the media -- that was the key thing for me. That's when I knew finally
I had done something good.
"The guys in hockey realize this isn't a hockey issue. It's a life issue.
When you're 14 years old, you look up to junior coaches. These guys
are like the NHL. You don't have a clue what to do (about the abuse).
I was really scared.
"It's tough to relate and to understand. If there's one thing I wish
I could do is invent a pill for people to take so they could feel and
understand one time, to feel what you (a sexual abuse victim) feel."
James stripped Kennedy of his self-esteem and robbed him of his innocence.
Beyond that, the abuse contravened his hockey career. Coming out of
junior hockey, he was regarded as a talented player and speedy skater
with considerable potential for the NHL.
But his professional career wobbled like a punch-drunk pug. He was depicted
as a wild kid with an alcohol problem and no direction in life. In fact,
there was a deeper, darker problem.
Now everybody understands where the demons came from.
"I think I'm a pretty humorous guy," he said. "I took it to extremes
at times (in an attempt) to run and to hide. I always had to make myself
feel good about coming to the rink. It's still tough to understand the
things that went on. I try to look beyond that because when I look back
it freaks me out."
Kennedy, 27, initiated the criminal investigation last September, saying
he was sexually assaulted more than 300 times, beginning when he was
14. James resigned as coach of the Western Hockey League's Calgary Hitmen
after the investigation became public. Kennedy played for James at Swift
Current of the WHL.
In a televised interview from prison several months ago, James said
he would like to still be friends with Kennedy.
"He doesn't get it," Kennedy said. "He's a sick man."
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Bruins' Kennedy a Beacon for Victims of Sexual Abuse; NHL: His disclosure
about own tortured past has helped others come forward and put him in
line for Masterton Trophy
By HELENE ELLIOTT
Jun 19, 1997
The letters came in thick, heavy piles, about a thousand a week at first.
There have been too many letters for Sheldon Kennedy to count, but never
so many that he will become inured to the horrifying tales they tell.
He knows their stories all too well, because he lived them.
From teenagers to 50-year-olds, the letter writers reveal their darkest
secrets. Like Kennedy, who in January disclosed he had been sexually
abused by his junior hockey coach more than 300 times over a 10-year
period, they also had been violated by someone they trusted. Their lives
were clouded by an anger they couldn't understand, their self-esteem
shattered by shame.
Unable to voice the unmentionable, they suffered in silence until Kennedy
gave them the courage to speak.
"It's remarkable the amount of support, not only for myself but for
the topic of {combating} sexual abuse," said Kennedy, who passed through
the Detroit and Calgary organizations before joining the Boston Bruins
last season. "When you're being abused, you tend to think you're alone,
you're in it by yourself. I never had an inkling how much of this goes
on in our society. That's the biggest surprise to me, how prominent
it is."
Although he's gratified his disclosure made it easier for other victims
to confront their past--and led to his nomination for the Masterton
Trophy, to be awarded today at the NHL awards banquet to the player
who best exemplifies the qualities of perseverance, sportsmanship and
dedication to hockey--his frankness created new problems. That's because
with every well-intentioned expression of sympathy he receives and every
interview he does, he relives his nightmares.
Kennedy, 28, is almost as much a prisoner as is Graham James, who is
serving a 3 1/2-year sentence in a Canadian jail after pleading guilty
to two counts of abuse against Kennedy and another unnamed player. Kennedy
is still seeking professional and emotional equilibrium, still fighting
old demons. He knows those demons can be held in abeyance, but they
might never vanish.
"The hardest thing about being abused is to get people to understand
the way you feel. It's not like a broken arm. You can't see the hurt
and the problem," said Kennedy, who was inspired to take action by the
birth of his daughter, Ryan, now 17 months old. "It's a love and trust
problem. The amount of shame that comes takes its toll.
"The biggest part for me is now I understand why I feel the way I feel.
Before I felt like I was just a weird guy. I understand it better now,
and when you understand why you feel a certain way, it's easier to deal
with."
Easier, but not simple. He can be skittish around people until he feels
he can trust them, and he often backs out of interviews several times
before keeping his word. When he does speak, however, his honesty is
gut-wrenching.
"It's going to take other victims time {to come forward}. The whole
point is to get help," he said. "It's not so much people coming forward
with names. It's my choice to come forward. I don't expect anyone else
to do it."
Eager to avoid the appearance of making money off his misfortune, he
declined to be a guest on Geraldo Rivera's talk show but agreed to an
interview on a TV newsmagazine. Plans for a book fell through, but he
has a tentative deal for a TV movie about his life that would educate
kids. Still, he's moving slowly as he encounters new psychological barriers.
"Ever since he was 14 years old, he was out of control. Graham James
was in control of his life and what he did was drink and party," said
his agent, former NHL defenseman Tom Laidlaw. "Now he wants to be in
total control, but you can't just flip a switch and be in total control.
"Sometimes you just have to step back and say, 'Let's realize what this
guy's been through.' All in all, he's been pretty good."
The good days outnumber the bad. He missed much of the season to pursue
his case against James and so played only 56 games, getting eight goals
and 18 points. A slight but speedy right wing, he has become an excellent
penalty killer, and he led the Bruins with four short-handed goals.
Since the season ended, he has spent most of his time working with the
Sheldon Kennedy Foundation, which he established to help victims of
abuse get counseling and repair relationships with their families. A
Canadian businessman gave him the deed to a 65-acre tract in the mountains
of British Columbia, where he plans to develop a ranch where abused
children and their families can retreat and receive professional counseling.
He couldn't do this even a few months ago, he said, because, "It's too
much when I still have to deal with my own garbage inside. People think
when you come forward, all the garbage comes out, but I've still got
a lot of work to do. It took a long time to get to where I was."
He was a lonely kid, unable to get along with his stern parents, and
he grabbed the chance to play for the junior team in Swift Current,
Saskatchewan. His parents never thought twice, because it's common for
Canadian boys to leave home and play in distant towns to further their
hockey prospects.
He was first victimized when he was 14. James had total sway over Kennedy's
career and soon had equal influence over his life.
"The coach is so respected. Your parents send you away and say, 'Do
what he says.' At that age, you listen. That's your first step if you
want to play pro," Kennedy said. "He was really a nice guy. He did his
thing. He didn't have to scare you, although he had a shotgun when he
was laying in bed {the first time James abused him}.
"They just know you're in such a scared position. You absolutely have
no clue about what to do. A lot of people probably think, 'Why don't
you just kick him or run away?' but you can't. You're vulnerable."
Unable to express his fear and revulsion, Kennedy began drinking to
numb his feelings. He scored more than 100 points in his last two junior
seasons but was known as a troublemaker. James propagated that image
after Kennedy was drafted by the Detroit Red Wings in 1988, telling
them Kennedy was wild and only he could keep Kennedy in line.
Jimmy Devellano, the Red Wings' senior vice president for hockey operations,
saw nothing in James but an apparently friendly desire to steer a wayward
boy onto a better path.
"I liked Sheldon. He was a good kid. He had good speed and he was feisty,
but we had a problem with his drinking," Devellano said. "I remember
me personally taking him out to a rehab place in Denver to try to get
his drinking straightened out. I had a lot of conversations with Sheldon.
Some were soft and some were me giving him holy hell. I did not detect
anything suspicious.
"Graham James' name would come up in the conversations and Sheldon never
indicated to me at any time that there was any problem. Graham used
to call me {and ask}, 'Is Sheldon in trouble again?' He always seemed
very concerned."
Said Kennedy: "He always put me down. It was amazing. He was such a
smart, manipulative guy. He manipulated a lot of people, press and parents
and people in hockey."
Despite a 19-goal season in 1992-93, the Red Wings gave up on him and
traded him to Winnipeg in 1994. Calgary claimed him on waivers but let
him go as a free agent last summer. By then, he had begun the process
that would enable him find some peace.
After a playoff game last spring, he told several Calgary teammates
he had been abused; shocked, they advised him to get professional help.
He saw a psychologist and filed charges against James, who was coach,
general manager and part-owner of a junior team in Calgary. Kennedy
also asked Laidlaw to represent him, having gotten Laidlaw's name from
a former Detroit teammate, Dallas Drake.
"I said to Dallas at the time, 'What am I getting myself into?' " Laidlaw
said. "Dallas saw him as a fun-loving young man, troubled, but not really
a bad guy. Dallas didn't know anything about the abuse. He said, 'He's
a great kid and if you work with him, you could probably help him.'
"When Sheldon first called me last spring, he told me he wanted to save
his reputation and I basically told him he had to straighten out. The
next time he called, he told me about the abuse. It made the first conversation
seem silly. . . . I didn't understand what was going on."
Devellano doesn't understand why Kennedy didn't act sooner. "The biggest
surprise is the length of time from the time he left junior {in 1989}.
Nothing ever seemed to surface {in the interim}," Devellano said. "And
I knew Graham James. I know Graham James. I don't know. It's all a little
confusing."
Kennedy sees the lapse as short, having heard from victims who waited
longer--or have yet to speak. "You look at a lot of people that are
50 years old and starting to come forward and deal with it now. A lot
of people live with it," he said. "I talk to psychologists, and they
think it's good I came out with it pretty quickly. I didn't have family
or close friends to tell."
NHL players were quick to support him and many have donated money to
his foundation. "I wasn't really sure what the reaction was going to
be. It's a life issue, not a hockey issue. People understand that,"
he said.
He also inspired others to seek justice. Citing Kennedy, Martin Kruze
of Toronto brought to light a pedophile ring that operated in Maple
Leaf Gardens over three decades. Complaints were filed by nearly 50
alleged victims and two arrests were made. "It's amazing and frightening,"
Kennedy said, "yet I'm ecstatic about being able to make a mark on this
sort of thing."
Someday, he will tell his daughter about the agony he endured and how
she unwittingly helped him set himself free.
"My life was very unorganized, but once my daughter was born, I knew
I had to do something to get my life where I wanted it to be. I just
felt it was the right thing to do," he said. "I felt I was put on this
earth for a reason, put in the NHL for a reason. I had to make this
stand."
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Hockey's Dirty Secret - (C) 1997 THN
No story captivated and horrified the hockey world more than Sheldon
Kennedy's revelation he was sexually assaulted by major junior coach
Graham James. It was, unhappily, the story of the season and heads out
list of 1996-1997's Top 25 Stories as compiled and written by Season
in Review Editor Jason McKay.
By Rick Mayoh
The letter was addressed to Sheldon Kennedy. In it was a medal that
had been awarded to a soldier for bravery in the Persian Gulf War.
"He said I deserved it more than he did," Kennedy said.
People inside and outside the hockey world have labeled Kennedy a hero.
That wasn't exactly what Kennedy had in mind when he made the shocking
disclosure in January that he had been repeatedly sexually abused by
his junior coach, but that is what happened.
Before that, Kennedy was a fourth-liner for the Boston Bruins whose
career had been marked more by torubles off the ice than accomplishments
on it. But Kennedy's attempt to escape his own pain and raise awareness
of sexual abuse has placed him in the spotlight and forced those at
all levels to confront the issue.
Kennedy's escape from the ordeal formally began last August when he
lodged a complaintwith Calgary police, alleging his former junior coach,
Graham James, sexually assaulted him about 300 times between 1984 and
1990. James, one of the most successful coaches in Western League history,
disputed the facts of the case, but pled guilty to assaulting Kennedy
and an unnamed player 350 times while he was their coach with the Swift
Current Broncos. James, who resigned as coach and GM of the Calgary
Hitmen before the season, was sentenced Jan. 2 to 3 1/2 years in prison.
James was contacted by The Hockey News, but declined to be interviewed.
The players' identities were protected by a court order, but Kennedy
stepped forward two days after James was sentenced. Kennedy went public
to help the healing process and to bring attention to the issue of sexual
abuse.
Just now I'm starting to realize some of the things that are going on,"
Kennedy said in an interview with THN in mid-June. "I can start to really
understand and work on my issues. The hardest part is to try to explain
to people in words what's going on when you can't figure it out yourself.
People don't understand, although they want to. But I'm getting better.
I have good days and bad."
Kennedy, his wife Jana and agent Tom Laidlaw, have been overwhelmed
by the public response since Kennedy came forward. Kennedy said he received
1,000 letters a week initially from all over the world. He has appeared
on Oprah, Prime Time Live, Hockey Night In Canada and Good Morning America
to tell his story.
He created the Sheldon Kennedy Foundation. Vancouver businessman Steve
Funk donated _____ acres of land in southeastern __________, where Kennedy
hopes to build a ranch to help abused youths.
"My recovery is about helping kids," Kennedy said, "and I'll be right
through that stuff with them."
Former NHL greats Bobby Orr and Phil Esposito are on the foundation's
board of directors. It has already received more than $100,000 in donations,
including $50,000 from wives of Philadelphia Flyers' players.
Kennedy's saga also spawned a thorough internal investigation of junior
hockey and prompted the CHA to implement a screening program for all
potential volunteers.
The foundation is also developing a website and has joined forces with
Kids Help Phone to help raise funds and provide access to counselling.
Kids Help Phone is a 24-hour telephone counselling service that receives
more than 3,000 calls a day across Canada on 14 lines. But because of
the volume of calls, fewer than half the callers get through on the
first attempt.
"The staff is very surprised to notice more boys calling," said supervisor
Carolyn Tremblay.
Not all of the calls about sexual abuse were from children, though.
"There were times I'd be in my office in tears," said Laidlaw, an NHL
defenseman for 10 years. "You'd get dads calling whose sons were sexually
abused and they didn't know what to do. They'd be crying at the other
end of the line."
Kennedy, meanwhile, played 56 games this past season with the Bruins,
scoring eight goals and 18 points. He earned $250,000, but the Bruins
decided June 24 not to pick up the last year of his contract for $400,000.
A day earlier, Kennedy broke his left leg just below the hip in an off-road
accident near Sylvan Lake, Alta.
Kennedy was riding a Suzuki four-wheel all-terrain vehicle along an
abandoned rail-line when it overturned and pinned him. He had embarked
on a rigorous off-season conditioning program and was intent on resurrecting
a once-promising career. Now a 28-year-old unrestricted free agent with
a broken leg, Kennedy's NHL future is uncertain to say the least.
Before the accident, Kennedy said for the first time in his pro career
he is driven to be the best player he can be.
"My sense is that he impressed enough with his attitude and his ability
that he could contribute somewhere," Laidlaw said before Kennedy's injury.
Kennedy was one of the most electrifying players in junior hockey eight
years ago. In 1989, he led the Broncos to the Memorial Cup and enjoyed
two 50-goal seasons in Swift Current. The way Kennedy figures, if he
could play eight years in the NHL with no physical activity aside from
carrying his personal baggage, he can accomplish much more by putting
his mind to it.
"I've played eight years and I've never lifted a weight or ridden a
bike," he said. "I know I can be a way better player than I've been
so far."
Meanwhile, Kennedy is enjoying spending time at home with Jana and their
one-year-old daughter, Ryan. He is growing closer to his mother, Shirley,
but his relationship with his father, Mel, remains strained.
There are many issues still to be confronted. One of them is alcohol.
"Because of what has happened in the past, it wouldn't be a stretch
to say Sheldon has an alcohol problem," Laidlaw said. "But from what
I've seen, it's under control."
Kennedy said he is not an alcoholic, that he drank in the past to numb
his feelings, not because he craved it.
An agreement has been reached with Baton Broadcasting in Toronto to
produce a movie based on Kennedy's life. Kennedy will be a consultant
and public service announcements are part of the package.
Asked who he would choose to portray himself, the witty Kennedy said
comedian Jim Carrey. "You need fun guys," Kennedy said. "The kids would
love him."
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Sheldon Says, "Save it, Theo."
Thursday, October 30, 1997
By JASON van RASSEL -- Calgary Sun
Sheldon Kennedy says Theo Fleury can save any explanation he has over
comments the Flames star made about the night Kennedy was sexually abused
by Graham James as Fleury slept nearby.
Fleury said Tuesday that given the chance to speak with Kennedy, he'd
like to apologize to his former Flames teammate.
Reached in Denver yesterday, Kennedy reacted cautiously to news of Fleury's
apology.
"I don't really want to comment on what Theo says -- I don't want to
get in a match with him in the newspapers," he said.
Kennedy and Fleury were junior hockey teammates during a 1986 trip to
California where their former coach James forced Kennedy into a sex
act while Fleury slept in the backseat.
In an earlier interview that drew an angry response from Kennedy, Fleury
said: "I didn't see anything ... in my eyes (the sex act) didn't happen,
because I didn't see that happen."
Kennedy said he won't be seeking any explanation from Fleury.
"I'm not going to pursue it," he said. "But if we happen to run into
each other and have a chit chat, it could come up."
Kennedy's revelation he had been sexually abused by James over a 10-year
period led to the former coach's conviction in January and a 3 1/2 year
prison sentence, which he's serving in Manitoba.
Fleury said his comments shouldn't be taken as a judgment on whether
or not the assault occurred -- he simply meant he doesn't remember anything
because he was asleep.
But Kennedy said Fleury should just keep to himself if he doesn't want
to talk about the incident, rather than making ambiguous or conflicting
comments.
"If you don't want to talk, just say, `No comment.' If he's going to
talk about it, I wish he'd talk about it," Kennedy said. "Don't beat
around the bush."
Meanwhile, James is due in a Winnipeg court today to face two new sex
charges stemming from alleged contact with a 14-year-old boy in 1971.
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The Shame and Pain of Graham James
11-6-97
by Corey Atkinson
Sports Writer
Graham James kept a lot of people in the dark. Unfortunately for his
victims, a lot of them prefer to stay there rather than deal with what
has become the worst scandal to ever hit hockey.
By now, everyone must know that James, who was so greatly respected
by almost everyone, pleaded guilty to sexual assault charges that will
keep him in jail until the year 2000.
The worst part about what happened, not only in Swift Current but apparently
in other dressing rooms across the Western Hockey League, is that people
associated with these crimes have chosen not to speak rather than allow
the truth to come out about these criminals.
Some people that the Carillon have tried to contact have either refused
comment, like University of Alberta coach Rob Daum, or spoke only on
the condition that only the vaguest questions be asked, like Swift Current
Broncos forward Jeff Kirwan.
"I really thought he was a good coach," said Kirwan. "He always had
a winning team."
His won-lost record was never in question. Obviously he had a knack
for scouting some of the most talented players in hockey, like Theoren
Fleury, Geoff Sanderson, and, unfortunately for him, Sheldon Kennedy.
The Boston Bruins left winger who courageously came forward to speak
about his assaults has urged those assaulted by James to either press
criminal charges or deal with it in with psychiatric help. No one disagrees.
The only way for the complete and total truth to come out is for the
people associated with these reprehensible coaches to step from behind
their walls of silence and emerge with everything they know.
Reports have surfaced recently that the former WHL president Ed Chynoweth
may have ignored rumblings in the league regarding Shaw.
Whatever the case, it is clear that Graham James was not the first coach
to make advances on his players. Whether it is the iceberg or just the
tip, the truth must be allowed to get out.
Eyes on Sport appears weekly
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Kennedy Named Newsmaker of The Year
December 27, 1997
Former hockey player Sheldon Kennedy has been named Canada's newsmaker
of the year. His revelations of sexual abuse in junior hockey shattered
Canada's idyllic image of the game.
Kennedy's decision to talk about years of abuse he endured from junior
coach Graham James forced Canadians to face a grim reality: that sexual
predators can take advantage of youngsters' NHL dreams and turn them into
lifelong nightmares.
Until a year ago, James was a well-regarded, championship-winning coach
in the Western Hockey League. Now he's serving a 42-month prison sentence
for molesting young players, including Kennedy, who went public last January.
Kennedy's courage inspired hundreds of men to come forward with their
own tales of abuse.
Newspaper editors and broadcast news directors pointed to Kennedy's bravery
in naming him Canada's top newsmaker of 1997 in a survey by The Canadian
Press and Broadcast News.
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Guy Who Really Makes You Wonder: Theo Fleury
12/31/97
br> On the ice, Fleury has always been an unlikeable character -- high
sticks, nasty words, key goals. Off the ice, Fleury revealed himself
this season to be just as unpleasant. His brain-dead comments regarding
Sheldon Kennedy (he was asleep while an assault took place nearby him,
hence it didn't happen) and demand that people respect his privacy are
at odds with his new semi-autobiography, a self-serving, overly flattering
look at only the parts of Fleury's life that make him out to be a hero.
That Fleury kept knowledge of Graham James' crimes and tendencies to
himself in order to preserve his own reputation is only speculation
at this point, but certainly not farfetched.
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Kennedy Haunted By Abuse
"The best way people will be able to understand, you know you go in
for an operation and they take out this big tumor and replace it with
another one and you've got to rebuild it right from the start. That's
the way I feel. It's like they opened up your skin and took all your
insides out, left your heart there, and replaced them and you've gotta
find all your new feelings.
"If there's one thing I could invent in this world it would be a pill
that you could give these sexual assaulters that they wouldn't be able
to get it up and that they would have to live life all mixed up, as
mixed up mentally as they make you. That's what I would love to be able
to do because I think that's a bigger punishment (than jail)," he said.
Kennedy sees a psychiatrist once a week. As he rebuilds his life, he
wants his story told so that others who have been, or are being sexually
abused, will be less afraid to come forward.
"I know how I felt in there and I was very lonely and I was very scared
to tell people how I felt because they wouldn't believe me," he told
reporters.
"I always felt I wasn't normal and I (want to) get things out to let
these people know it is all right to tell somebody because there are
people out there that understand where you are coming from."
Kennedy came forward on Sept. 3, 1996 by taking his complaints of sexual
abuse by James to Calgary city police.
The decision was in part spurred by the fact that he saw James regularly
at the Canadian Airlines Saddledome where he was coach of the Calgary
Hitmen, and in part because Kennedy and his wife had just had a child.
"I had a hard time going to the rink and seeing Graham with kids," said
the victim.
The court heard Kennedy, now 27, was the victim of 300 assaults by James
who also pleaded guilty to 50 assaults on another player he coached.
That player is not being named to protect his identity and privacy.
Kennedy, who admitted his home life in the small farming community of
Elkhorn, Man., was far from perfect, said James represented a father
figure for him when he was 14.
"You know, I couldn't wait to get away from home and to meet Graham
- he was that thing a 14-year-old was looking for, a father figure,
you know."
The first sexual encounter between James and Kennedy was in Winnipeg
at James' apartment in 1984, court heard. From that point on, Kennedy
said James, who had seen him at a hockey school in Winnipeg, controlled
his hockey career and his life.
"He had this whole thing planned. He knew what he was doing. It's the
way they work. He always keeps you put down so you'd always have to
look to him as the only person who could help you," Kennedy added.
James pleaded guilty to the offences and admitted in a statement read
to the court that; "I offer no excuses. I blame nobody but myself. I
was selfish."
But he added: "I am truly sorry that this happened."
When Kennedy was 15 he told James a lie - that he had been abused by
a teacher - in the hopes that James would stop the molestation.
"He didn't even blink an eye," said Kennedy. "He kept me with him all
the time. It was like we were married. It was unbelievable."
Kennedy further complicated his life.
He said he sometimes turned to alcohol to chase away his problem. On
Jan. 1, 1995 he was charged with possession of marijuana. The charges
were later dropped. In the summer of 1993 he plea-bargained on a drunk-driving
charge. Prior to training camp he was jailed for two weeks for violating
probation orders stemming from the charge.
The healing process has begun, Kennedy said Saturday.
"It's a weird thing. A lot of times when I drank it made me feel normal
at the time. But now, dealing with these problems I don't need a substance
to bring my feelings out. I'm learning to talk about it. I truly do
not believe that I am an alcoholic or a drug addict. I'm only a quarter
of the way there but I'm getting better. I can feel things now," Kennedy
said.
"I'm starting to like myself again, I didn't care about myself for a
long time."
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Kennedy Story is Far From Finished
by Matt Brown, Boston Correspondent
This is the obligatory Sheldon Kennedy article. You knew it had to happen.
After all, every other hockey publication in the world has carried one
or more stories dealing with the Graham James trial for sexual abuse
of young hockey players in his trust, and the subsequent revelation
that Sheldon Kennedy of the Boston Bruins was the primary victim. Everything
that should be written about this case, and then some, has been written.
Hasn't it? Well, if the answer were "yes," we could stop right here.
Unfortunately, it just isn't that simple. Most of the press coverage
has concentrated on Kennedy's bravery, and that is good. Very good.
Another portion has been angled to paint Graham James as a nefarious
child molester, deservedly. The rest is divided among hand-wringing,
speculation, denials, and "if only we'd known" stories.
That's not where this column is headed. Instead, our subject is longer
term, the issues of this case that are most likely to have a future
impact, rather than fade into yesterday's headlines. There are at least
four aspects of this situation that are far from being closed books.
The first is the most positive: the incredible outpouring of support
for Sheldon Kennedy, and the resolve to lessen the chances of this happening
again. Sheldon Kennedy has gotten encouragement from the players on
his team, his opponents, his former Junior teammates, the management
of the Bruins and the NHL, and most of all the fans. Every time he steps
on the ice, the fans in Boston, for sure, and in other cities as well,
are pulling for him -- people want to see this young man's courage rewarded.
Perhaps the ultimate respect for him is being shown by his peers, who
are going out of their way to treat Kennedy as just another player on
the ice. They all understand what he is going through (perhaps more
than we know, but more on that later), and they realize that they could
just as well be the one in his skates. Some of them must wonder if they
could live with the level of shame and pain that Sheldon has endured.
Some must look into their own hearts and question whether they would
have the courage to do what he has done. So rather than using this problem
as a way to taunt Sheldon and take advantage, they are giving him the
chance to prove himself as a player, free from the specter that has
been haunting his life. The word from players like Mario Lemeiux and
Eric Lindros supporting Sheldon have had an impact all around the league,
and it has had a major impact on the fans of other teams, who are not
always renowned for their compassion toward opposing players.
But the most lasting impact will be on hockey players as a whole. Young
players will be more aware of their vulnerability, and they have a chance
of understanding that they are not to blame for the abusive actions
of adults. Older players who have lived through traumatic experiences
will be more aware that they are not alone, and that they can get help
without humiliation. Ex-players who stay involved with hockey will have
a clearer sense of the responsibility they have to the next generation
of players. A league official like Ed Chynoweth, who was President of
the WHL when James was abusing Kennedy, will realize that the victim
could have just as well been his son, Dean Chynoweth, also currently
a Boston Bruin, instead of Kennedy, and be even more vigilant in the
future.
Please don't read that as a knock on Mr. Chynoweth. Before these revelations,
who would have believed it? Who wouldn't have wanted to think it was
unfounded slander? Now, could anyone possibly view even the slightest
accusation of this sort as less than deadly serious?
The second significant development is that there seems to be a genuine
effort on the part of the controlling organizations of hockey in North
America to examine the process of selecting and monitoring coaches for
youth teams. Some of this had been happening prior to the James conviction,
in a number of sports, such as soccer, where for several years national
and local organizations have been promoting a policy called "Kidsafe."
"Kidsafe" is designed to screen coaches to weed out potential problem
adults. Programs like this attempt to ward off situations where an adult
is run out of town for hurting kids in one state, so he moves to a neighboring
state, starts again, and no one is the wiser until the damage is done
(if then). If you think it can't happen, take a look at the Swift Current
Broncos and the Calgary Hitmen.
The governing bodies of hockey are also examining and rethinking some
of the practices that have become "hockey's way" in Juniors, allowing
young players to leave home and play on remote teams under what sometimes
appears to be questionable supervision, as in the case of Swift Current
and the other teams coached by James.
However, there is a danger in this increased attention. Every time a
PeeWee coach does something that parents don't like, the potential is
there for people to scream "Graham James! Sheldon Kennedy!" as an excuse
for nailing the coach. Sometimes they will be right, but with others
it will be pure witch-hunt tactics. If you think that parents aren't
capable of distorting the facts to get their way, regardless of the
impact on the kids, well, spend some time at the rink or the ball field
and listen up. They're out there in droves. Every year, a few high school
coaches in just about every sport are driven out of jobs because of
parents' uprisings, sometimes over issues as trivial as playing time,
three separate local cases this year come to mind in southern New Hampshire
alone.
In such an environment, any man who wants to coach youth hockey, and
is less than hairy-backed macho, with three kids, two wives, and a mistress,
had better check his liability insurance before he signs on, because
the potential is there for false accusations to ruin his life, if not
cost it. A man who coaches a girl's team had better have a daughter
on the team, to be safe. Is that a good thing? No, but it has a good
chance of becoming reality.
The third aspect is that this is a legal matter, and legal matters have
a way of being continually resurrected, or perhaps exhumed is a better
word. Take the OJ Simpson trials, for example. Do you honestly believe
that when the current jury hands in a verdict, it will be all over?
You wish. There will be appeals, custody battles, family feuds, and
an endless stream of best sellers arguing that he did or didn't. We
will see the same with the James case, as more players come forward,
or more coaches get accused (some perhaps wrongly), or God forbid, something
terrible happens to James in prison. There is great potential for ugliness
here, and none of it is good for hockey.
Worse still, a few years down the road, or perhaps as soon as Graham
James is eligible for parole, there will be apologists for James blaming
the victim, or casting doubt on the veracity of Kennedy's story. For
that matter, imagine the hue and cry if James is ever paroled, let alone
if he makes it out after only 14 months.
The fourth aspect is that while life goes on, this kind of scandal has
a way of developing a life of its own. Again, using the Simpson situation
as an example, we are seeing the OJ cottage industry keep chugging along,
turning out tee shirts, masks, David Letterman jokes, and topless tabloid
photos of any woman Simpson so much as winks at. OJ is both a public
pariah and a symbol of domestic violence, regardless of the court verdicts,
and those images will not fade away peacefully.
Similarly, Kennedy is still pursuing a career as an NHL player, and
Mr. James is beginning a new life behind bars. Both of these men will
remain under the microscope, at least in Canada. If additional players
come forward, James will face further vilification if not increased
physical danger in prison. Every time there is another similar case,
James and Kennedy will get dragged out of the news archives and be put
through the whole thing again.
Kennedy will remain under scrutiny for his entire career. His claim
that his earlier problems with alcohol and drugs were the result of
the damage done by James will wear thin if his career is derailed by
a further series of the self-destructive incidents he went through in
Detroit and Calgary. What is viewed now as a badge of courage could
be seen as a crutch if it is used as an excuse for every misstep. Sheldon
has a better than even chance to straighten out his life and his career,
with the help of friends and family. But the vultures will be waiting.
Fortunately, this case has not been reduced to a laughing matter or
marketing travesty. We have been spared the late-night TV jokes and
the bloodsucking opportunists. Most hockey people are too sensitive
to the issue to make light of it. Thank the patron saint of hockey that
the Kennedy matter hasn't come to this, in part because it happened
in the Northland rather than in an L.A. suburb. At least the hockey
world has been spared the kind of Hollywood media circus that followed
Mark Furman, Johnny Cochran, and Judge Ito. So far.
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Masterton Finalists Announced
NHL Daily Report by Zippy, Wonder Chimp
Tony Granato of the San Jose Sharks, Sheldon Kennedy of the Boston Bruins
and Joe Mullen of the Pittsburgh Penguins have been named as the finalists
for the Masterton Trophy by the Professional Hockey Writers Association.
The Masterton Trophy is awarded annually to the player who displays
perseverance, sportsmanship and dedication to the game.
Tony Granato, who had brain surgery in February of 1996, made a remarkable
recovery and returned to the NHL six months later after signing as a
free agent with the San Jose Sharks.
Sheldon Kennedy missed the first two months of the season after confronting
years of sexual abuse he suffered from former junior coach Graham Jones.
Kennedy has made his story public, hoping his experience will give others
courage to confront similar abuses. In addition, he has started a foundation
to help abused children.
"Slippery Rock" Joe became the first American-born player to score 500
career goals and announced that he is now entering retirement after
a 16-year NHL career. Mullen had serious knee injuries in 1983 and 1991,
and he has twice had surgery in the past six years to repair herniated
discs in his neck. Following surgery Mullen even wore those cool horse
collars to protect his neck.
The winner will be announced at the NHL Awards in Toronto on June 19th.
Last year's winner was LCS hero Gary Roberts of the Calgary Flames,
who retired in 1996.
(I believe the winner in 1997 was Tony Granato, for those of you who
are wondering)
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